(Photos will be added - eventually - to break up this long, ugly wall of text!)
It
was 1992, and I was 12 years old that Christmas. It was cold, of
course, but we hadn't yet had more than a few flurries fall, and I was
glad; the cold, dry air was great for breaking in my new birthday roller blades after school. I loved being outside. I wasn't much of a
tomboy anymore, but I loved the crisp air, and the wind on my face as I
rode my bike or skated around the neighborhood with my Walkman.
On
a lazy Sunday morning, just before Christmas, I sat on the floor
watching television. During a commercial break, I got up and walked into
the kitchen. I felt a painful, sharp twinge in my back as I moved, and
it hurt bad enough that I went upstairs to look for my mom. Mom, who
had recently gone back to nursing school, was studying for a final. She
suggested I lay down, thinking I might have pinched a nerve, so back
downstairs I went, where I promptly sat back down on the floor. Not long
after, my calves started to hurt. Thinking I probably should have
listened to Mom in the first place, I moved to the couch, where I
immediately realized that I had to pee. Groan. We had a two story
house, and the first floor bathroom was occupied by one of my brothers,
which meant that I needed to go upstairs. Double groan.
By
the time I walked from the family room to the stairs, which couldn't
have been more than twenty steps, I was in a great deal of pain. My legs
felt like they'd been stabbed, repeatedly, with hot knives. Calling to
mom from the bathroom, she insisted I come lay on her bed when I had
finished. I stood up, or at least, I thought I had, but instead, I found
myself falling, crashing back down to the toilet. Something was
definitely wrong.
Mom
came running and helped me to her bed, where I lay on my stomach,
trying to relax and figure out what had just happened, while she ran
downstairs for ice packs. Her thought was to stimulate the nerves by
alternating hot and cold packs, and so there I stayed, with ice packs
and heating pads draped across my calves and thighs. I started to relax,
comfortable on the bed, but I could tell my ice packs had melted. "Mom,
I need more ice," I said. "I just refilled your ice," she said. We
argued back and forth for a moment, before mom finally said "Isabella,
LOOK", and sure enough, a fresh pack of ice was in the middle of my leg.
We looked each other in the eye. "hospital?" I said. "hospital," she
confirmed, and we managed down the stairs and into the car.
We arrived at urgent care, and I only remember a few select moments:
1-
I was really frustrated. I didn't know what was happening, and everyone
seemed to think i should know why I couldn't stand or feel my legs.
2-
I was poked, repeatedly, in the arms and legs, to see where I could
feel and where I couldn't. I was irritated when I couldn't, and it hurt
when i could.
3-
it was decided that I needed to be moved, via ambulance, to University
of Michigan hospital. As I waited for the ambulance, I was strapped to a
backboard with a neck brace, in case there had been a trauma they'd
missed. It seemed like ages before the ambulance arrived, and I waited
and waited and waited, annoyed and immobile, and bored enough that I lay
there, counting the dots in the ceiling tiles, a task I would get very
good at in the coming weeks.
Ann
Arbor, MI was about a thirty minute drive from where we lived in
Canton, but I have absolutely no memory of the drive. I was hauled into
the emergency room, my clothes stripped. Nothing more embarrassing for a
twelve year old, than being stripped down by strangers, right? Wrong.
My lower half had stopped functioning, and I had lost control of two
particular bodily functions. The testing began. X-rays, MRIs,
Ultrasounds, and one awful and painfully memorable spinal tap. I had no
concept of time. Everything just happened around me. At some point, it
was decided the neck brace could come off and I could sit up a little,
but I had also been given some steroids, so i was a little...loopy. The day passed, and I was admitted to Mott's Children's and taken upstairs.
It was dark and quiet, clearly late, and I was settled into a room on 6
East. The pediatric floor was separated into east and west. East was
for kids who were "sick", west was for kids with physical issues, so I
was moved, at some point in the next day and a half, to 6 west. It felt
like a week in East, I hated that side of the floor. I was annoyed by
the volunteers. I hated the food (seriously. Turkey tetrazzini? Gross!).
I learned how to transfer into a wheelchair. I started physical and
occupational therapy. I was moved to west, and started feeling a little
more at ease. Mom stayed with me every night, except one, early on, when
she wanted to sleep in her own bed and shower at home. She promised to
bring back the comforts of home, and she did - with a pot of my favorite
soup, a bag of nacho cheese Doritos and my baby blanket.
It
was December 20, 1992, when it all started, and I was sad to miss
Christmas at home. U of M had a little hotel, The Med Inn, and my mom
stayed there a few times over the eight weeks I was there. On Christmas
Eve, my whole family came up to the hotel room, with a tree, stockings
and presents, the whole nine yards, and we enjoyed our Christmas despite
being stuck in the hospital. Christmas morning, I met them back in the
hotel room, and I remember watching a Godzilla marathon with my
brothers. You know, like most people do on Christmas morning?
I
spent eight weeks in the hospital. I had a lot of tests and exams, a
lot of pokes and prods, a lot of relearning how to have a daily routine -
everything from showering to tying my shoes. After about three days, my
right toes started to wiggle. I hated my physical therapist. I really
hated my primary neurologist, but my nurses were great. I remember
almost none of them now, except one - Trina, who used to threaten me out
of bed with a Super Soaker. We had water fights often. I loved when the
U of M swim team came to visit (oooh. boys). I had a few friends visit,
one or two teachers, who brought homework (gee, thanks.) I made the
best of it all, what else are you supposed to do? I was sent to nine
different shrinks over those eight weeks. Nine! Each one more insistent
than the last that they were dealing with a girl in serious denial. My
medical records actually stated that I was "a twelve year old with an
inappropriately cheerful effect". They could not understand why I was
NOT crying. By the time I met with the ninth guy, I was sick of it. I
finally challenged him "what do you want?! Do you want me to cry? Fine. I
will cry, but you have to tell me - will it fix it? Will it go away?"
When he stammered and stuttered and mumbled "uh, well, um, no", I said
“OK then. Can I go?,” and they never made me go back.
Coming
home was unusual. Everything in our house was inaccessible to me. My
bedroom was upstairs, and my cat loved the basement. All of the bathroom
doors were too small. All of the cabinets I needed to reach were too
high. Going back to school, I was met with MORE challenges, and
certainly a lot more stares and whispers than I’d expected. I lost a lot
of friends. Admittedly, I didn’t have a whole lot, being new to the
school (we had only moved back to Michigan just before school started in
the fall), but it was quite an adjustment, to see how many people I’d
called friends just fell by the wayside. Some of them came back in 7th
and 8th grade. Those who didn’t, well, they clearly weren’t friends I
needed. My very best friend never gave up on me (Hi Amanda! Love you!!)
and to her, and those who DID stick with me, thank you. I don’t know
that I could ever articulate properly how much that meant.
My
life had been typical up until I was 12 years old. My whole world was
shaken up in the course of forty five minutes, when I went from walking
into my kitchen to completely paralyzed from the waist down. I could
feel touch, but not temperature or pain. I could wiggle my toes just the
slightest, and it took a lot of effort to do so. I felt frustrations,
certainly, but overall, I managed to maintain a pretty positive outlook. OK, so I don’t walk anymore. Big deal, moving on! And its that same
attitude I’ve tried to maintain ever since. Things happen. You can
either sit and pout and cry and shut yourself off from the world, or you
can figure it out and just keep going.
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