Tuesday, October 23, 2012

Sleep Regression, or "Become a real Halloween Zombie in just seven days!"

OK, Moms of toddlers. Help me out here.

Have you experienced sleep regression with your child(ren)? We’ve had our share of sleep ups and downs, but for the most part, in the last few months, everything has been pretty great, minus the fact that Travis is a total night owl and rarely goes to bed before 10pm.

In the past 2 weeks, however, we’ve had more bad nights than good, and when I hear that baby monitor go off between 3 and 5am, I know I’m probably getting up for the day. We’ll find Travis wide awake in his crib, usually at least a little cranky because he doesn’t want to be awake (trust me, kiddo, neither do I!). But nothing will soothe him back to sleep, and I wind up parked in my family room with Season 1 of The Muppet Show or any number of Little Einsteins episodes on repeat. When it seems apparent that he won’t be nodding off any time soon, I’ll fix him breakfast and make my coffee. Making coffee for me means “I’m not going back to bed”. I just can’t once its done.

90% of the time, I’ll fix my coffee, turn around, and find Travis fast asleep in his eggs and toast. Once, he still had his waffle in his hand, up to his mouth, and in his teeth! He’ll go back down to bed for a couple hours, and I’ll stumble into my office, catch up on a few reports or emails, feeling like an extra on the set of Walking Dead. And of course, by the end of the day, I’m so exhausted and frazzled that I earn the label of “superbitch” in the household, dishes aren’t done, dinner is pizza delivery, and I want nothing more than to be left alone.

I’ve done the slightest bit of reading on sleep regression (meaning, I got up at 5am with Travis today and read about four articles while he ate his eggs and I drank not-enough-coffee), and it would appear that the only solution here is time. We are NOT “cry it out” people, and I know that if you leave Travis alone in his bed, he’ll almost never just fall asleep. He gets mad, madder and maddest, until he is too wide awake to sleep anymore. 
 
Aside from crying it out, have any of you found a decent solution (and don’t say benadryl!) or are you, like me, just sitting up before the sun rises, waiting out the next month?

3 comments:

  1. Me and my tot actually share a room and sleep together. I know this is a 'no-no' to most people and experts. But, there is no other room to put him in, and I'm a single mom, so, we do what we can to get a full night's sleep. I did try to keep him in his own room when he was younger, but because of his eczema waking him up throughout the night its just easier to have him there with me and I can just grab his creams and itch lotions from the night stand and take care if it right there and then. Plus, I work 40 hours a week so its one way to spend extra time with him, even if we are asleep.

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  2. Phillip isn't a toddler but we have done sleep training with him, very gently of course!

    What helps us is to have a routine- we don't live by the clock but there is a certain rhythm throughout our day. Our day does start early b/c we need to be out the door before 7am M-F but he's asleep by 7pm most nights.

    Our general "rules" are 2 naps a day, each one no longer than 2 hours, combined no longer than 3. Each nap starts about 3 hours after waking up. The last nap ends at 4:30. This leaves us with bath time around 6:15, asleep by 7pm.

    This forum has been extremely helpful to me: http://community.babycenter.com/groups/a199215/teaching_your_baby_and_toddler_to_sleep

    There is also a chart that we've used: https://docs.google.com/document/d/11GHo4keUb2TVJUlSL1kD6HQcEgaNFBmzoQoOzcpcyas/edit?hl=en&authkey=CPXE1bsO&pli=1#

    Good luck!

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  3. Thanks Vanessa!! We've always had a good bedtime routine, but what we're working on now is keeping things quiet and low key the last hour before bed. For a while, it was hard to do, Matt being at work all day, the evenings were the only chance he had to REALLY play, but now he does his playing and roughhousing before dinner, and we mostly just read books after dinner or bath. We've had more bedtimes before 10 in the last week than we have in ages, lol!

    Now I just need him to STAY IN BED until after the sun rises!

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